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Health and Wellness, Lifestyle, Relationships · September 29, 2020

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Turning 30 in the middle of 2020 has been life-changing in many ways. However, the number one thing that it’s taught me is self-reflection.

There’s just something about leaving your twenties behind that makes you assess where you are in life compared to where you were before (and who you are compared to who you were before).

Then add a global pandemic into the mix and you’ve got a heck of a lot of overthinking due to the lack of social activity. Right?

That being said, I want to reveal a little secret to you (come closer…). I only started to love myself at the end of my twenties. And it’s been a revelation.

Why? Well, I’ve discovered that if you learn to love yourself first, these 7 things happen.

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1. You Feel Confident in Your Decisions

First things first, let’s just get one thing straight. At the beginning of my twenties, I was in turmoil.

I didn’t know who I was. I didn’t know what I wanted from life. And I always doubted myself — whatever I did.

It was an agonising time. I mean, I was essentially at war with myself on a daily basis.

Fast forward to the present day and I finally have confidence. I don’t question every single decision I make, whether it’s which jobs to apply for or what I should be having to eat that night.

(Yes, really.)

I’ve learned to trust the universe that whatever happens will happen because it’s meant to. And, most importantly, I’ve learned to trust myself.

2. You Have the Strength to Go After What You Want

Because I no longer doubt myself and my decisions, I have the strength to pursue my goals.

From learning how to create digital products for my business to planning a destination wedding, it’s taken me a while, but I’ve finally realised that the sky’s the limit.

I can do anything I want to do if I put my mind to it. The only person getting in my way of achieving great things is myself.

3. You Don’t Settle for Less Than You Deserve

Likewise, I now know my worth.

Whether this is in romantic relationships or when it comes to setting rates for business projects, I know I deserve good things.

That’s why I won’t settle for anything mediocre. I want an extraordinary life — and I’ve realised that it’s mine for the taking.

4. Your Romantic Relationships Keep Getting Better

Speaking of romantic relationships, you might find that your love life will be better than ever if you start to learn to love yourself first — like mine is.

(I’ve been engaged since Christmas Day 2019!)

This is because you no longer put all your focus and attention on them. The focus is on making yourself an even more amazing human being than you already are!

You also realise real quick that love is a bonus. You don’t need a partner to make you happy. And you can live a perfectly fulfilled life without one.

But if you did want to explore the world of dating, whether it’s on Tinder or free dating site Match Me Happy, you might find it more enjoyable than ever before.

How come? Well, you won’t mind whether things work out or not because you’re already so content with yourself.

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How to Love Yourself

5. Your Other Relationships Are Thriving

Alongside your romantic relationships, when you learn to love yourself first, you appreciate your friends and family members more than ever.

The time spent with them will be even more glorious because you won’t be secretly going over what you could have said or done better in your head afterwards.

(Me circa 2014. Damn you, anxiety!)

You’ll also learn that social media isn’t real and that comparisonitis only ends in sorrow — so there’s no point in doing it.

In fact, I now limit the amount of time I spend on social media as much as possible. If I don’t, it’s detrimental to my personal growth and happiness.

6. You Enjoy the Time You Spend With Yourself

Full disclosure: I know some people really don’t like being alone, but I always didn’t mind my own company.

That said, I actively spend time with myself now as opposed to how I only used to spend time alone because everyone else in my life was busy.

I’ve taken some pressure off myself. I’ve realised that I don’t have to socialise if I don’t want to. 

If I’m exhausted from work and want a pamper evening to myself snuggled up with Netflix, I’m entitled to do that. And there’s nothing wrong with it.

In fact, it’s needed every once in a while. It makes me take some time out to rest, look after myself and reflect on life.

7. You Look Forward to the Future More Than Ever Before

Lastly, if you truly love yourself, you’ll look forward to what’s to come.

You won’t be looking back at good times you had. You’ll appreciate them, for sure, but you won’t yearn for them.

Similarly, you’ll be able to stay present in the moment without worrying about the future.

It took a while for me, but I finally realised that I’m the author of my own life story. And I can write the next chapter however I see fit.

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Learn to Love Yourself First: It’s a Process

Learning to love yourself doesn’t just happen overnight. It takes years for it to take hold.

And do you know what? Even when you think you’ve cracked it, you’ll still have days where you doubt yourself or someone says something that doesn’t make you feel confident in your own skin.

It’s completely normal.

That said, it’s worth kickstarting the process. After all, loving yourself means that you’ll be so much happier with yourself — and life in general.

When did you learn to love yourself first? If you don’t, comment below and tell me why.

Katie Davies

Katie Davies is the Yorkshire-based freelance writer who founded Trendy Tourist. Since 2017, she has written for over 100 companies on a range of subjects, from fashion to marketing. When she’s not producing content, you can find her shopping, exploring a new place or sitting somewhere having a cup of builder’s tea.

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  1. November 7, 2020 at 11:43 pm

    What a lovely post! I’m on my own journey of self-love as well.

    Chichi
    https://chichiwrites.com/

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    • November 9, 2020 at 4:09 pm

      Aww thank you, Chichi! I’m glad to hear that you enjoyed it.

      Wishing you all the happiness in the world on your journey to self-love!

      Katie xo

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